I wish… Let’s talk about regrets

How many times a day do we think “I wish I had/hadn’t done this or that”? And I’m not talking only about things in the present, but things in the past too.

For example, when I was in high school I was offered to go to France and spend a month during summer living with a hosting family. It was a program for high school students and it was a great opportunity to improve my French and have my very first experience living outside the country, but I was too shy and stayed home.

A few times I thought to myself that I should have gone. However, several years later I had a chance to go study to Toulouse, France, for a semester, and this time I didn’t let the opportunity go.

There’s a phrase out there that says that it is better to regret the things we did instead of the ones that we didn’t do. But how about understanding that regretting something doesn’t get you closer to your goals/life that you want/anything at all? They say (and I do believe it) that when a door closes, a window opens. Why don’t we invest our time on seeing how we can find that window instead of thinking about things in the past that we can’t change?

There’s a phrase out there that says that it is better to regret the things we did instead of the ones that we didn’t do.

But how about understanding that regretting something doesn’t get you closer to your goals/life that you want/anything at all? They say (and I do believe it) that when a door closes, a window opens. Why don’t we invest our time on seeing how we can find that window instead of thinking about things in the past that we can’t change?

That has been my philosophy for the longest time. I regret very little things in my life (if any). If I had gone to France when I was in high school I wouldn’t have met the people that were my friends for several years, and I wouldn’t have learned the lessons that I learned. Ultimately, it’s all those experiences what make me who I am today.

Life is a road with many side roads. Choices. I don’t think there are wrong choices (at least most of the time), as we learn from anything and everything to form the people that we are.

So make the choices thinking what’s best for you at that moment, and if later you realize that you made a mistake, learn from it and continue with your life. Who knows, maybe from that “mistake” you get to a better place!

Do you regret something in your life? Let me know in the comments below!

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The Importance of Focusing on the Present

First off, let me apologize about the lack of posts. I meant to post on Friday, then Saturday, then Sunday… Honestly, I didn’t really know what to post about. I have a notebook full of ideas, but for some reason, none of them were interesting enough for me to write a post. So I’ve spent almost a week looking for a subject (and time… and energy) to write about.

Then it came to me. I had in mind to talk about this for a while, so why not now? This post is going to be about some thoughts that I’ve been having lately about how we keep thinking about the future without living the present. Are you lost? Keep reading.

The Importance of Focusing on the Present

A couple of days after New Year’s I went grocery shopping and right after entering Wal-Mart my mouth opened wide open. We didn’t even take off the Christmas decorations but there were already gifts, chocolates and huge teddy bears for Valentine’s celebrations!

I don’t know if you’ve realized, but we go from one holiday to the next one, from one season to the next one and so on. We start to see summer clothes in shops during winter, and winter clothes during summer. Right after Christmas we start thinking about Valentine’s day and on the 15th of February we start thinking about Easter. Labor Weekend, 4th of July, Memorial Weekend, Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas and start again.

Holidays Year Christmas Valentine's 4th July Halloween

I don’t know about you, but I’m tired just thinking about it. It looks like a marathon!

Why don’t we just take a break every once in a while to just live the moment? I’m not a fan of winter, cold and having to wear so many clothes, but I’m trying to enjoy the time that we’re in. So bring on all the colorful scarves, gloves and hats!!! Haha

If we keep thinking about the next thing coming up in our lives there will come a day when we look back and realize that we spent all the time we had waiting for something to happen.

“Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin.” – Mother Teresa

So, tell me. What are your thoughts on this?